June 02, 2008

WISE III

Hello again...

I saw pretty a lot of the angry comments about the delay. I am sorry. Just I suppose it was not wise to start this post when there was so much going on this week. :)

However, I found it extremely difficult to overview the ideas I had in the comments. It is difficult for certain reasons. I am not absolute objective body that can actually tell that this was right and this was wrong. So if you are actually expecting me to say now the presided definition what the wisdom is... you can stop reading the post. I have no right and ability to say that. What I wanted to show by this post and proposal to leave the comments is that the understanding of the abstract terms as 'wisdom', 'love', 'happiness' etc etc is so distinctive for every each one of us. To understand these terms, we need to listen to each other and I think we lack this ability in our everyday life.

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Halloweenhouse Once upon a time in the middle of nowhere there was a house on the side of the road and the bright warm light was coming out of the windows. The storm outside was making this light so tempting and cosy so lots of traveller end up in the dining room of this small tavern. Let’s have a look inside.

The fireplace was hot and only new guests gathered close to the fireplace as the rest of the people did not feel cold and the rain outside did not seem hostile to them but just calming. I was making tea and some hot wine. The smell of the spices was wondering around and tickles the noses of my guests. More and more people were looking at the bar with curiosity. Then one of the new guests stand up and came up to the bar. He was tall and thin with the eyes of the sea colour. Images

-          Are you making the hot wine?

-          Yes, it is really good in this kind of weather. Will keep you safe from cold. 

More and more eyes were on me and the guest. He put the money on the bar. I gave him his glass. Some people start to chat in the corner of the dining room. Another group came to the bar, then another. And finally everyone had tea or wine. Everyone felt safer and much more relaxed. The wine and tea was warming their bodies and the wine warmed the minds as well so people start to talk. More and more people were getting involved into the discussion. Then one corner of the room burst with laugh.

-          Hey, you! Who is Ella Wheeler Wilcox? She seems confused when she talks about wisdom!

The first person who bought the wine from me (and already was having his third glass) was staring at me and pointing at the writing on the wall.

-          Ella Wheeler Wilcox was an American author and poet. Her best-known work was Poems of Passion, have you heard of it?

TavernI took another glass to wipe and looked at the tall man with the green eyes.  The guest stand and all the rest of the people were looking at him. He walked from one wall to another reading the writings I had on it.

-          The truest greatness lies in being kind, the truest wisdom in a happy mind. (Ella Wheeler Wilcox)

-          Believe those who are seeking the truth; doubt those who find it.( Andre Gide)

-          Without courage, wisdom bears no fruit. (Baltasar Gracian)

-          Life is the only real counselor; wisdom unfiltered through personal experience does not become a part of the moral tissue. (Edith Wharton)

-          To know when to be generous and when firm—that is wisdom. (Elbert Hubbard)

-          Too bad that all the people who really know how to run the country are busy driving taxi cabs and cutting hair. (George Burns)

The last phrase always had its effect on the tired but relaxed group of travellers. They laughed and looked at me. I was checking the new portion of the wine. A bit more cinnamon, yeah, now it is good.

-          How do you find it, huh?

The green eyed man looked at the person sitting next to him. It was a young woman, too clean and nice for this place. She was still holding the first glass that some of travellers gave her. She looked at her nails and said:

-          I find it extremely interesting.

Her voice was like a wind wandering in the Mediterranean olive trees. Warm, a bit sharp and sandy. Everyone looked at her. She continued.

-          Everyone would give a different answer, but the point is that everyone agrees that it is good to be wise. – She paused and raised her eyes, brown with a bit of sunshine on the bottom.

-          Someone says that actions are wise when they are led so that the result is positive, someone that wise actions are those performed following our moral values. According to me wise actions are those performed by people who think about what they are doing, about consequences and reasons. That is the reason why I think nobody can be completely wise. There is always a moment in which we act only following our instinct, without thinking. Life has to be a little unwise. – She gave a smile to the man who started the talk and looked back on her nails. The dining room was covered with such a heavy silence that the sound of the wine gurgling on the fire was louder that the thunder outside.

The cloud of smoke with the smell of apple came from the left corner of the room and with the smoke the words came.

-          Being wise is avoiding mistakes, getting away from them taking advantage of opportunities with considering the best possible solution.Images_2

The person talked with the east accent and he was lying down on the carpet with couple of pillows under his head. He finished the talk and started to move coal on the kalian so two orange lights arose in the darkness of his corner. I was looking at the people and interest in my eyes was much brighter than the coal on the kalian but it was dark near the bar so everybody could see only bored barmen moving the glasses.

The  person sat next to the man and he talked.

- Do you want to talk about wisdom? Think about religion.
Q: I'd like to be the most learned of men.

A: Fear Allah, and you will be the most learned of men.


Q: I wish to be the richest man in the world.

A: Be contented, and you will be the richest man in the world.


Q: I'd like to be the most just man.

A: Desire for others what you desire for yourself, and you will be the most just of men.

That is the Wisdom in Islam!

People looked at him and then continued to talk in their small gourp and the person smoking kalian moved a tea toward the man who spoke about Islam.

The man sitting so near to the fireplace so his cheeks and ears were red looked at the guests and asked a bit aggressively.

-          Do you want to talk about who is wise? Who among men (I mean humankind) is wise? Nobody, in their own right.

What I mean is that you have to get your presuppositions right; else the whole deck of cards is on shakey foundations. Are you eternal, incorruptible, unchanging, all-knowing, all-powerful, and incapable of error?

Seems to me that the wise thing to do is to conform one's thoughts, one's allegiance, and one's behaviour to the ultimate source of truth, which is the Lord, as he reveals himself in the bible.

His manner of speech was to prolong the words and make them sound soft. He might be from

Australia

. He had a long trip to get here.

Images_3 People started to chat in the small group and I could hear that the word ‘wise’ was coming up so often that it seemed strange meditation to me. This sounds to me like a folk music of the rare tribe. All these people had their own stories. Italian woman was talking to the man sitting on her right and even though I still could hear the repetition of the word wise and abstract questions, their eyes were talking on their own language. The man with the green cold eyes was sitting and looking at his glass, it seemed that he is considering all pros and cons to come to the bar again. The Australian traveller was chatting with the east man and he even sat next to him on the carpet. They all have their own roads and only here in the middle of nowhere they can be themselves a bit more than usual. They can talk it means to be wise and argue about something that they have no time to think in the real life...

One young girl stood up and looked at everyone. Her hair was wildly curly and she tried to keep them out of the face. She made a serious a bit too adult face.

-          What does ‘wise’ mean? Not making the same stupid mistakes twice.....when you ask for advise..you listen and maybe use what is given to you....you realize that maybe your parents were smarter than you and you now wish you had listened to them....you wish you had paid more attention in school....shall I continue...?

She blushed and could not stand the crowd looking at her.  She said ‘Bye’ and she left the room and we could hear her steps on the stairs and the sound of the closed door. She went to her room and she will leave the place first in the morning that no one recognises her.

The tall man in the group next to the kalian said something louder than usual and everyone looked at him.

-          Wisdom-related knowledge grows steadily through life. There is no actual measure to this. The function of wisdom is to discriminate between good and evil.

-          I agree. There is a crucial difference between wisdom and knowledge
It is experience which dictates our understanding of cause and effect—knowledge; which makes it the concern of investigation and discovery: the realm of science. But it is morality, the fixed foundation of understanding, that dictates our understanding of meaning—right and wrong: the realm of religion. This is why the recognition of sin is constant and the claims of Revelations endure, while scientific theories vary in the light of new discoveries. Although scientific advancements may obscure the truth and require refinement in Church teachings, such changes are only to the interpretation of, not changes to, the axioms of morality.

The second person talked so confident so we could only wonder if he needed to answer the questions like that every day in his real life. I looked at him. He was not tall, was not short, he was not old, was not young. But something in his eyes made me believe that he is a professor in some university. And according to his accent it might be university somewhere in the new World.

-          Wisdom is not one thing; it is a whole array of better-than-ordinary ways of being, and living, and dealing with the world. Because of this, and because individual wise people express wisdom's characteristics in different ways and to different degrees, this question has no brief answer.

This person had the similar accent to the ‘professor’ but a bit colder. Canadian? They looked at each other and moved to the one table. They will continue the discussion long after the room will get empty and i will change the candles for the second time.

The man stood up and walked to the bar. He was dressed a bit too porch for this place and  the relaxed but well-balanced walk showed the confidence in himself. He gave me money with quite a lot of tips and when he turned away with the glass of wine in the right hand, he spook.

-          Ideally, wisdom is total perspective -- seeing an object, event, or idea in all its pertinent relationships. Spinoza defined wisdom as seeing things sub specie eternitatis, in view of eternity; I suggest defining it as seeing things sub specie totius, in view of the whole.

Shall we have examples? Rain falls; you mourn that your tennis games must be postponed; you are not a philosopher. But you console yourself with the thought, "How grateful the parched earth will be for the rain!" You have seen the event in a larger perspective, and you are beginning to approach wisdom.

Images_4  me i could expect him to give a bow after his speech. Only one man did not look at him and he actually did not pay much attention to any of the people who spoke out today. He was sitting near to the window and he was looking at the storm. He turned to the bar and looked at the man.

-          On life's journey Faith is nourishment, virtuous deeds are a shelter, wisdom is the light by day and right mindfulness is the protection by night.

If a man lives a pure life nothing can destroy him;
If he has conquered greed nothing can limit his freedom.

He said it with the voice that seemed a song of a falling rain, so calm and so responsive so everyone stopped talking for a minute. But he turned back to the window and there was no continuation people started to talk again, firstly quietly and then louder.

The woman in the right corner was looking at light of the candle. Her eyes were like mirrors reflecting the game of the fire. She looked at the man sitting on the other side of the table to her and she talked with the slight Russian accent.

-          Plato says that "the desire and pursuit of the whole is called love." (3) One of the most crucial tasks of post-totalitarian Russian philosophy is to distinguish within itself two types of "wholeness."

Totality, that is to say the ability not only to analyze but to synthesize concepts by a total act of loving understanding;

The totality of love must be distinguished from the totalitarity of power, and Russian philosophy still has a way to go before assimilating all the nuances of this distinction. It must free itself from totalitarian temptations while at the same time master the ways of "total wisdom," which in Russian is synonymous with total purity (tselomudrie) , the chief characteristic of Sophia.

The talk became more and more distinctive so i could hear only separate phrases.

-          ...Wisdom is the use of one’s intelligence and experience as mediated by values toward the achievement of a common good through...

-          ...Having knowledge...

-          ...Way of being or acting...

-          ...Versed in art or science..

It made me tired a bit so i stopped listening and i poured myself a glass of wine.  I looked at the people, i looked at the storm outside, i looked at the fire of the candles. My head was full of thoughts but they were moving so slowly so i did not notice how one man came up to the bar and was looking at me. I came to him.

-          Can i help you?

-          So what does it mean, oh, wise one?

He looked at me with the smile.

-          I do not know, that’s why i keep asking.

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293057996_7c09978773P.s.: I hope you enjoy reading it and you understood what i wanted to show and share with you. I do applogize if any of people who have posted the comment got inappropriate personal description in this post, i just wanted to make the words you said personallized to remind you that behind any idea there is a person as you or me. We should respect each other's thoughts and learn from each other and then i suppose we would be approaching a slight degree of wisdom.

May 19, 2008

W-I-S-E II

Whoa... that was amazing! Believe me my highest expectations were much less than 16 comments!

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I want to thank you all in participating. Already we can see that it is not an easy question to answer. The amount of the information and its variety is fascinating. I am really looking forward to work with it. It will take me a bit longer to post the overview and my own comments but I promise that it will be on in a week time. I do not want to keep this post boring as I managed to get it interactive. :)


I have one nice idea, hope you will like it.

Thank you again! Be wise!

All the best,
Irina

May 11, 2008

W-I-S-E

Attention! Everybody!Images

I want to appeal to your everyday experience! What do we mean when we say 'wise'?

I really want to know the answer to this question from each one of you!

I hope that in one week time i can get some comments including the answer to the question and any relevant thoughts! It will make the blog on this topic more interactive as i will include and discuss whatever i get in the comments in the week time! So please do leave your comments,yeah, i mean yours and yours and yours!

Do you vote?

VoteLast week I did something that I never thought I would. I didn’t vote. It’s not apathy. I’m a political person; I care about issues and I like to think I understand most of them. I have a degree in Law and International Studies (law, politics, history and international relations), I read the news (with a degree of scepticism, see What’s in the News Today? March 9), I listen to most of Radio 4’s political programming and I have opinions about the way we should do things. When there’s a general election, I have a tendency to stay up all night to hear the results come in.

So when my postal vote for the local elections on May 2nd came through, why did I wilfully put it to one side and decide that for the first time since I turned 18, I would not vote? It’s really not because I couldn’t be bothered, or that I’m not interested in my local environment, or even that living in a Labour stronghold I figured that my MP would be alright without my vote and the LibDem candidate wouldn’t be helped by it.

What it comes down to is the sense that voting won’t get me what I want. I don’t want to choose between what’s on offer because all the choices have downsides that leave me very uncomfortable.

Vote2Identities and allegiances within society are becoming fractured while the three main political parties attempt to stand for as much as they possibly can. Differences in society are less polarised than they were in 1950 when voter turnout hit a high of 83.9%. Then there was a real debate about how to make people’s lives better and what kind of future people wanted for their children. Now, the issues are smaller, there is no debate over how society should be structured, just about how to tweak what we have. There’s no revolution in the air.

Maybe this isn’t a bad thing. Maybe voter turnout reaching a low of 59.4% in 2001 is just a reflection of the fact that life is better. People are richer, safer, healthier and living longer. We have more leisure and a surfeit of time wasting activities. For many people in the UK life is quite the opposite of nasty, brutish and short.

Labour has snaffled the centre ground on economics and the Conservatives are moving in on the centre ground on social policy. The majority of their policies aren’t that different. The Liberal Democrats have dropped some of the policies that made them seem like a real alternative. It doesn’t matter who you vote for because life will go on much the same regardless of which party forms the government.

The policies I want to see – the true separation of church and state, greater funding for science, equal maternity and paternity rights, a press free from commercial pressures, open borders – aren’t even on the agenda. So who do I vote for? These days I can't even identify myself in terms of right or left because it all seems less clear. Perhaps this is progress but I can't help missing the passion.

May 07, 2008

I'd do anything for you

LoyaltyWhenever I’m confronted with a list of values and asked to choose which ones are most important to me, there’s always one which I really struggle with. These lists can be found in pop psychology magazines quizzes or in management training events.

The one that makes me think twice is loyalty. I should want to think that this is a good thing – who would make a virtue out of being disloyal? There is something, however, that bothers me slightly about it. Loyalty is closely related to fidelity and patriotism, and I am equally unsettled by these concepts.

PatriotismOf the three, patriotism is easiest to deal with. The phrase ‘My country, right or wrong’ holds the key. What does ‘my country’ mean? The idea of the nation state is relatively recent and the political theory of nationalism is barely three hundred years old. Can a country be right or wrong? Countries are led by governments and governments are made up of ordinary people, no less fallible than anyone else. The idea that I should be loyal without question to a group of people elected by a flawed system of representation is ridiculous to me.

It is the ‘without question’ part of the nature of fidelity, loyalty and patriotism that bothers me. I find it hard to understand how I might follow someone I believed to be wrong out of a sense of – well, what exactly?

Loyalty is more than being a supportive friend and doing something you don’t want to do because your friend wants someone to hold their hand. What if my friend wants to send hate mail to a person who has hurt them? I want to be supportive, I want my friend to feel better, but I can’t believe that this course of action will benefit anyone, least of all my friend. Say I fail to persuade my friend and they are determined to go through with it. Loyalty demands I help and I find myself unable.

The truth is that I’ve never been able to say ‘I’d do anything for you’ without qualification. I had hoped that exploring the subject here I might have come to an understanding of what it means to be loyal above all else. I'll return to the subject in the future, as well as the special case of fidelity between lovers.

May 02, 2008

Teaching SMS Text Messaging in school?

You may wonder, do you need to ‘teach’ today’s kids how to use SMS Text Messaging? Perhaps it should be the other way around! However, tTextmessaginghere exists a group of educators whom argue that students need to learn to text in the classroom. This argument worries the parents - is it necessary or is it a waste of time? 

The real initiators of this concept are from Australia. Many educators in Victoria have been teaching SMS text messaging as part of a language arts curriculum since late 2006. Students practice writing in short message formats, putting together their own texting abbreviations and comparing the language and syntax of text messaging with that of formal written English.

Professor John Frow, from the University of Melbourne in Austrilia, argued that simply teaching students how to text message would be a waste of time, but if it is helpful for the students to learn about the range of different languages that exist in English and how it is translated from one form to another. He said, ‘if we’re teaching them both that kind of skill, but also to think critically about these processes of moving between languages, then that seems to me entirely appropriate” (The World Today, Oct 2006).

Professor Frow continued explaining, that English has existed in various forms and today it has now got a technical form added on to the list. So thinking about SMS text messaging is in fact a way of thinking in the pre-digital way, how the language works differently from the other forms that people have been familiar with.

However, many pointed out that students’ writing skills have became poorer and poorer over the years ever since SMS text messaging started dominating the way people communicate. Hence teaching kids more about it does not seem appealing.

SMS text messaging is definitely a new form of communication that is practical in a daily basis, casual way. However, it is ultimately merely a simpler form of the English language abbreviated for the purpose of fitting it in a tiny mobile screen, especially when mobile phones are becoming smaller and smaller. Plus, there have been several news stories covering issues with students using SMS to cheat in tests which does not appear to be a positive outcome.

Nevertheless, we are moving towards a digital world in which then it may become difficult for many to communicate without SMS text messaging. So perhaps educators should also not simply dismiss SMS as an educational waste of time. Perhaps it all depends how the teaching is approached, and the learning as well. (Carvin, 2006)

April 30, 2008

Victim culture

Prescott Is John Prescott’s confession of bulimia an example of victim-worshipping culture? Is it a PR stunt to promote his autobiography? Or is it an honest attempt to change the conventional wisdom about eating disorders?

Actually, there’s no reason why it can’t be all three at once. Prescott’s memoirs will be serialised in the papers in the next few weeks and he will be required to do something to publicise them. It will have to be of wider interest than the mechanics of opposition and government because his publishers are interested in sales. He needs to do some publicity and there is a shocking secret in the memoirs that will encourage readers who aren’t interested in politics to buy the papers.

Maybe there’s a chance to start a conversation about eating disorders that challenges the perception that it’s all about skinny girls and celebrities. There’s an obvious synergy in the timing. If this revelation was made as PR for Prescott’s memoirs, that doesn’t detract from the aim of raising awareness about the subject.

Child_it Memoirs of abuse and difficult childhoods are very popular, even fake ones, and have been for a while. The jargon of therapy has seeped into everyday language. The self-help book market is booming. Everyone wants to share their experiences of depression, self-harm, eating disorders and abuse.

Well, what’s wrong with that? Let’s talk about it and let’s be compassionate to those who have suffered. Let’s define abuse widely and learn how to speak and act so that we don’t hurt others unintentionally. Some people might worry that this leads to a curb on free speech and I can see how that can happen when rules replace principles. If all we have is a list of words you can’t say, people become resentful. They feel controlled and it makes the banned words more attractive.

The principle of considering the effect of your words on the people that hear them should not interfere with free speech. Considering the feelings of your listeners might make you change the way you say something – or it might not, but at least then you won’t be surprised by their reaction. Indeed, considering the feelings of your listeners might even make you change what you think. I, for one, don't see any benefit in going back to pretending these things don't happen. Maybe there is no hidden epidemic of middle aged men with bulimia, but if John Prescott's announcement helps one person, then it was worthwhile.

April 15, 2008

The Behaviour of Words

Lets_behave_2This afternoon I read an article on parenting that suggested an effective way for parents to instil desired behaviour in their children. For the record, that way is repetition and positive reinforcement backed up by explanation. I sent the article on to friends of mine with children that I know are interested in these things. In the subject field of the email I initially wrote ‘Interesting article on getting children to behave’.

As I was typing, I was reminded again of the weight of assumptions with which words get loaded. The choice of words you make to express an opinion, state a fact or even describe an object reveal biases you may not even know you have. We use words and phrases because our families and our peers use them. We rarely think of what we are actually saying.

For example, when discussing our emotional state, we confuse a brief time with a state of being. We say ‘I am angry’, ‘I am happy’ or ‘I am confused’. This labels us as being the thing we just happen to feel at that time. This can have unlooked for consequences. A person who labels themselves as happy may have difficulty accepting times when they feel sad. A person who defines themselves as angry may then think they need controlling.

If we say we are an emotion rather than that we feel an emotion we lock ourselves into patterns of behaviour. We believe that we can’t change because it’s just who we are.

Using the more precise (or pedantic) construction of ‘I feel angry’ or ‘I feel sad’ allows the possibility that this can change. It is a temporary state and will eventually give way to feeling something else.

Behave_2_2To behave is a verb that means to act in a particular way. It has such longstanding value judgements attached to it that another dictionary definition is ‘to conduct oneself properly’. To behave is to be a good person. Not behaving makes you a bad person. We transfer these judgements when people don’t behave as we do. I have been taught that behaving in particular ways makes me a good person, so people who don’t act like me must be bad.

It’s important to make our children behave so that they will be considered good by others. We give them a list of rules and exhort them to obey. Often we haven’t really considered what we’re trying to achieve and that is the power of language. If we’re not careful, the words we use carry a message we didn’t intend.

April 11, 2008

Icebergs and Monkeys

MonkeyI like The Apprentice. It’s car crash TV and it’s highly entertaining. After the second episode, where the Project Manager that week displayed some breath taking rudeness towards her team, there was a flurry of articles. One decried outdated business practices calling for a business show where everyone was nice to each other. Monkey see, monkey do, after all.

I’m a writer and I’m always learning how to do it better. Like many people, I watch other's to see how they do things. I’ve found of late that reading good authors is not necessarily that instructive. Someone who is exceptionally good at what they do makes it look effortless, simple and easy. It’s tricky to pull it apart and work out what they did to make it look so good. Hemingway’s iceberg theory of writing illustrates this perfectly:

“The dignity of movement of an iceberg is due to only one-eighth of it being above water."

IcebergWe don’t see the seven-eighths of work he did to make the one-eight so very good. That's genius for you.

The last two books I read were not as good. One was truly horrible and the other just poor, yet I found both more instructive than anything I’ve read in a long time. As I was reading, and cringing, parts of it sounded a bit too much like my own writing for comfort. It was easy to see what the author was doing that spoilt the telling of their stories. In both cases, the story itself had a lot of entertainment potential and the writer managed to get in the way. Reading these novels turned out to be a great exercise in ‘what could I do differently to make this better?’

So it is with The Apprentice. Watching these people, who are chosen for their potential to make gripping TV not for their ability to walk in Sir Alan’s footsteps, and I find myself thinking how I could have done it differently and done it better. Maybe there are bosses out there who see The Apprentice as a training manual, but I suspect that they would have been pretty awful to work for anyway. We are critical creatures and after childhood we don’t simply mimic. Instead we analyse, dissect and take what’s useful to us.

April 08, 2008

Mummy, where do babies come from?

It has been ever since anyone can remember that many parents find it difficult to talk about sex, or even drugs and relationships, with their children. Many of them believe it is better to speak to their kids about these sensitive subjects when their kids have grown older or at least reached puberty. However, reports have shown that it is in fact important that these talks are done earlier.

Parents are not all trained to be professionals, so when it comes to discussing these sensitive topics with their children, it is understandable that they find it difficult to be in that position. Hence, schools should help parents talk about sex, drugs and even relationships to students. Schnurse

Several schools have already developed effective ways in approaching these sensitive issues with students, regardless of age. Reports show that support services like private drop-in centers with the school nurse have been particularly effective, because students are not pressured in any way and can ask personal questions without peer pressure. The Department of Skills and the Department of Health have pointed out that sometimes it is not only the biological facts that needs to be addressed but also emotional feelings and relationship-related concerns.

Primary schools have shown improvements in the quality of Personal, Social and Health Education over the past 5 years but secondary schools have got more work to do. Nevertheless, it has been shown in studies that too many schools have failed to deal with mental health issues

Wk8d9aca845tpacaaqt4decafzlk88cau2jThe Liberal Democrat education spokesperson, Sarah Teather, points out, "schools are not preparing young people to deal with today's challenges. Young people need space to discuss how they feel emotionally and how that relates to sex. Young adults need to be equipped with the information and confidence to make healthy decisions when parents and teachers aren't around".